Lynette’s Law was killed for the 3 year in a row and look what happened

I was reading an article today about a judge in Leonardtown who dismissed a suit by an ex-counselor.  The counselor was Karl Honkala who was accused of sexually exploiting his client and losing his license for it.  Yes, the professional boards took his license away but he also has an appeal in with them to get it back.

The case was dismissed because there is no law in Maryland about sexual exploitation by mental health professionals.  It even states in the article that they have tried for the last several years to get one passed.  Here is the article.

Now Lynette’s Law has fought for 3 years to try and pass this law but because of our legislators the bill has either never made it to the floor for a vote or was voted down.  So at this time I would like to thank all of the delegates who killed Lynette’s Law HB908 and SB617 this year.  I would like you to think about how you just allowed this counselor to be free for what he did to this woman.  I want you to think about how many have committed suicide because they couldn’t get justice and/or couldn’t get anyone to listen to them.  I want you to think of all the victims-no I’m sorry they aren’t victims because there isn’t a law, think about everyone that has been sexually exploited by a mental health professional and then look in the mirror and say I allowed that to happen.  Yes, you had a hand of all these things and as long as you keep denying we need this law you will continue to have a hand in it.  You might as well be sexually exploiting each and every one of them yourself.  For you to keep denying this bill is like you are standing on the side lines and allowing them to do it.  I hope you aren’t the kind of person to see a crime happening and just sit/stand there and watch.  I do hope that this never happens to someone you know.

Read for yourself the #Maryland #Delegates who denied these bills and are allowing these people to keep sexually exploiting their clients.

If Honkala does get his license back it is because of the Maryland House of Delegates.  Put people first and help make this a crime.

Lynette’s Law will be back next year to fight it again, I do hope we don’t fall into the same opposition as we did this year.  It is time for all of us to stand up and take responsibility.  Come help us fight this year.  Keep an eye on our Facebook page.




Suicide: Sometimes songs and pictures say it best

Today is suicide awareness day and I just wanted to post a few things that say it better then what I can say.  My biggest point I want to make is “I Care”

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A Brother Gone


abrothergoneMy brother killed himself back in 1996.  There were no warnings, no signs, nothing at all.  We were all out partying one night.  Laughing, having a good time, we danced a few times, and he was telling me how he wanted to do different things with his life.  Yes, that’s right he was making plans for the future and what he wanted to do.  His daughter wasn’t in his life and he wanted to change that.  

Early morning I received a phone call that he had shot himself in the head, I called all my brothers, got dressed and went to the hospital where everyone else was meeting.  We had to say our good byes to my brother that morning.  The next few days were a blur to me, as I tried to keep everyone going and making the plans to bury our brother.

May 2016 will mark 20 years since I have seen my brother alive.  Every day I think of him and I miss him very much.  Not a day that goes by that I don’t talk to him in my head.  I know he is around me at times as I feel him close by.  I didn’t just lose a brother that day but one of my best friends.

Two songs that always remind me of my brother.  One is Spirit in the Sky and the other is Fishing in the Dark.  Spirit in the sky is because I know my brother is up there in the sky looking down at us and keeping an eye on us.  Fishing in the dark is because he loved to fish and I know he would love that one.  

After my brother died a good friend of mine wrote me a poem called A Brother Gone, I treasure that poem and it helps me keep going.  

My advice to anyone that has lost someone is grab on to the memories, find things that remind you of that person and just remember them for who they were.  

WordPress Meet and Greet – All Bloggers Welcome

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Well this is the third post I have done like this so far and I have seen some great connections. I’ll keep doing these off and on and I think they provide a great way for “active bloggers” to network. This post now has over 2,000 active bloggers waiting to connect in it. I encourage anyone looking for new blogs to view or people to converse with to browse through the comment section and network.

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September is Suicide Awareness Month, this week is suicide awareness week, and Thursday is Suicide awareness day!

This is an important month for me and it means a lot to be aware of suicide.  Suicide awareness and prevention month should be on everyone’s mind.  I am sure that most people have lost someone to suicide.

This isn’t a weakness but an illness.  It takes a lot of courage for someone to take their own life.  People don’t normally wake up one morning and say this is it they are checking out, they have thought a long time about it before this time comes.  There are signs that you can look for in most cases.  Here are just a few:

Warning Signs of Suicide

These signs may mean someone is at risk for suicide. Risk is greater if a behavior is new or has increased and if it seems related to a painful event, loss or change.

  • Talking about wanting to die or to kill oneself.
  • Looking for a way to kill oneself, such as searching online or buying a gun.
  • Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
  • Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
  • Talking about being a burden to others.
  • Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.
  • Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.
  • Sleeping too little or too much.
  • Withdrawn or feeling isolated.
  • Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.
  • Displaying extreme mood swings.

Additional Warning Signs of Suicide

  • Preoccupation with death.
  • Suddenly happier, calmer.
  • Loss of interest in things one cares about.
  • Visiting or calling people to say goodbye.
  • Making arrangements; setting one’s affairs in order.
  • Giving things away, such as prized possessions.

A suicidal person urgently needs to see a doctor or mental health professional.

In an emergency, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

If you hear of someone thinking of killing themselves, get them help.  Tell someone that might be able to help.  If they are young and in school tell an administrator and/or counselor.  Tell their parents or a sibling.  Reach out to them and get them the help that they need.  Normally if you can get them through the rough times then things will be different.

Never, Ever give them suggestions on how to kill themselves.  Never push them into it or demand when they are going to do it.  This is not helping them, in fact it is hurting them and you could be charged if they do kill themselves.   This doesn’t show you care, in fact it shows that you don’t care as anyone that is ready to let their friend and/or love one kill themselves must not care at all.

Life does get better, people do care about you, and you will be missed very much.  You might be out of pain but you are leaving a lot of people who will keep on hurting through out their lives.

September 7-13 is Suicide awareness and prevention week.  During this week please think of all the people that have survived a suicide attempt, killed themselves, and families who have struggled with someone who has killed themselves.  Keep them in your thoughts and prayers as they remember the ones they lost.

September 10 at 8:00 PM light a candle for all of those that have lost someone or for a family member or friend who lost their life to suicide.  Remember them, remember the families and their struggles.  Light those candles and show the world that we do care and that this is very much an illness worth fighting for.
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Suicide Awareness and Prevention

Today is the day that I want to talk to you about suicide awareness and prevention.  You probably have heard many things said to you about it but I am going to say a few things on my mind.

Life is a gift that we are given, sometimes there are rough patches along the road but things do get better.  If you were to take your life, you wouldn’t see these times.  Ending because of a death of a loved one, bad times, or for any reason means you give up when things are bad.  What about tomorrow when things look brighter?  What about next week or next month?

Think about your life, your whole life, your family, your friends, and your future.

I attempted suicide when I was younger and thank God I didn’t know what I was doing.  Thank God it wasn’t as easy as googling it to find the best way to do it.  I hit a rough road in my life and thought the best way to handle things was to just end my life.  I was wrong and so are you.  Today I have 2 grown daughters who I love dearly, I have 4 lovely grandchildren and 1 on the way.  I have seen a lot of things, accomplished a lot, and helped a lot of people along my way.  If I would have ended my life, I would not have all of that.  Of course when you are thinking about it, you don’t think about all you might have or all you will get.

I also have lost a brother to suicide.  I miss my brother every day.  I wish he was here with us to see his daughters grow, his nieces and nephews, his brothers and sister.  His life was gone in the matter of a minute.  You can’t turn back the clock, you can’t get a second chance.  When it is over, it is over and there is no coming back.

What is left behind is a family and friends who are torn apart because of this act.  There isn’t a day go by that we all don’t think about the one that got away.

I have talked a to several people and have helped them see the light, don’t give up-just talk.

“The person who completes suicide, dies once. Those left behind die a thousand deaths, trying to relive those terrible moments and understand … Why?” – Clark (2001)

Suicide is not the way to end your pain.  Talk to a friend, family member, or if you don’t think you have anyone then talk to me.  Contact me by email, facebook, text, anyway you can but contact me.  I will listen, I care, and I will be here for you.

Hugs to anyone going through this.

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Virginia Professional Boards thinking of giving a second chance to mental health professional

Virginia professional boards is having a hearing for Adam Glatt on May 1st to reconsider giving him his license back.  Check out some of the articles about this case:

Adam Glatt doesn’t deserve to get his license back in Virginia, Florida, or any other state.  He deserves to go to jail and be behind bars like all other criminals of sexual exploitation, rape, sexual misconduct.

Don’t let Adam get his license back, contact the professional boards and tell them what you think.  Tell them that they shouldn’t give a license back to the-rapist=therapist.

Also, contact any media that will listen about this article and about what they are trying to do.  Tell them that on May 1st, Virginia Board of Professionals will have a hearing to give Adam Glatt back his license, the same license they suspended a year ago.

Do you think this man should get his license back?  Do you think it is time for the boards to stand up for the victims?  Send them your concerns now.

Murder in the Maryland House of Delegates

Last night there was a murder in the Maryland House of Delegates.  That’s right several delegates killed HB908 without taking into consideration the people of Maryland.

Supporters of HB908 were stunned to find that they killed the bill without putting it out for a vote.  Years past they had supported Lynette’s Law bill but this year something was brewing in the house of delegates while some decided it was better just to kill HB908.

Victims of sexual exploitation by mental health professionals have the following Maryland Delegates to thank for this:  votesforhb908

How could these delegates just carelessly turn their back on victims and allow mental health monsters to abuse them once again.  Will Maryland ever change and go after the real bad guys?  When will the people of Maryland stand up and tell them they have had enough?

Don’t allow our delegates and senators to keep murdering much needed bills, speak out and make them listen.